“I’m living in the spin cycle!” is a mantra that I hear from my clients, who are busy, high-powered, over-committed and exhausted women. And, to be honest, the little voice in my head is not unfamiliar with the phrase. So, are there solutions? You bet! My clients come to me because they have no time and very little freedom. In three to six months, new careers are born, closets get cleaned, weekends open up and personal time re-appears.
But, there is a time for solutions, and a time for acceptance. In fact, it is almost impossible to find solutions without acceptance.
So how can we accept our lives right now?
Maybe a shift in perspective is in order? If we are living in the spin cycle, what does that mean? Does it mean we have a full life? Does it mean we have people that we are responsible to, and for? Are we loved? Are we capable? Maybe there is something to be said for “living in the spin cycle?”
If we break down the phrase, we find some powerful words.
First of all, we’re “living” – better than the alternative and all that.
What about “spin cycle?” The spin cycle is just that, it’s a cycle. One of the inherent truths about a cycle is that it is constantly changing.
Maybe we can accept this part of the cycle with the knowledge that the cycle changes and with those changes come new opportunities.
Take a moment and notice if you feel you are in the spin cycle.
If you are, accept it.
Let go of resisting it.
Make a list of all that you are grateful for right now.
Make a list of the things that are making you crazy.
Now, make a list of 3 actions (you might want to hire a coach?) you can take, that will start to address the things that are making you crazy.
Remember, the spin is ok sometimes – just make sure it is a cycle and not a pattern.