What do you think? Are you ready to add a little extra sexy to your day?
Do you remember feeling sexy?
Typically, working moms do go through a few years (or more?) of feeling like they don’t have the time, interest or ability to feel “sexy” anymore.
That may be. But what does it really mean to feel sexy?
Could it be that “sexy” is simply a combination of self confidence and self care with a sprinkle of self awareness thrown in?
Sometimes the sense of self that we held so easily before having children, is hidden behind a curtain of a new role: “mother.” We can see the curtain, we know the answer is behind it and that we only have to push the curtain aside.
But like Janet Leigh in “Psycho,” we may be afraid of what we will find, if we do take a peek.
What if when we look behind that curtain, all we find is some hair in the drain? What if that is all that is left after the incredible shower of love and commitment that washed over us when we brought this new person into the world?
Realistically, if you have a baby and every piece of clothing you wear, smells like spit up – you may not feel that sexy.
And when you go back to work after maternity leave and have trouble engaging in “witty repartee” with colleagues because you nod off periodically due to sleep deprivation – you may not feel all that sexy.
But there is hope.
You can look behind the curtain and reclaim that sense of self.
And, I’m not talking about walking around in lingerie and 4 inch heels, although if you can walk in 4” heels, more power to you.
I’m talking about that feeling of confidence that we experience at different times in life – A sense that we feel comfortable in our body, good in our clothes and exhibit an expertise that is useful in the world.
We may drop some of this when we embrace our role as mother, but we can add it back in easily.
You can include everything you were into what you are embracing now to create a new and expansive integrated experience of life.
So why not pull that curtain aside and take your sexy back to include it in who you are each day?
Coach Me Quick tips for taking Your Sexy Back:
1. When is the last time you felt sexy?
2. What makes you feel confident?
3. When do you feel flirtatious?
4. When do you have fun?
5. Do you have a role model in your circle of friends who is able to fully engage as a mother and also maintain her strong sense of self?
6. Take your answers to questions 1 through 5 and commit to becoming more self aware during each day – notice when you feel strong and self confident = sexy.
Pulling back the curtain in L.A.,
Jamee
photo credit: James Vaughan via Compfight
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