This headline jumped out at me from the cover of a magazine yesterday: “10 Ugliest Celebrity Feet”
As is my usual routine, I allow myself trashy literature when getting a pedicure.
In my opinion, the decadence of paying someone to polish your nails is best accompanied by a quick dip into the murky pool of gossip and vicarious debauchery.
And as we slip our feet into the warm water, settling into 30 minutes of bliss, we start flipping through the pages of our “Fave Celeb Mag.”
If the 10 Ugliest Celebrity Feet doesn’t satisfy us, we could flip to the side by side pix of two women wearing the same dress.
One woman has a 79% stamped over her size 2 frame and the other is sporting a lowly 17% on her forehead. These percentages tell us which woman is wearing the dress “better” than the other.
Because we feel they are both beautiful, we usually disagree with the percentages given and find ourselves rooting for the underdog. Like hopeful soccer moms cheering for their daughters who are usually “on the bench,” we know they will get their chance to “wear it better” one day and blow Ms. %79 out of the water.
Once we’re done considering which woman has “outworn” the other, we can peruse the ups and downs, hook-ups, splits, tearful confessions and gleeful wins that fill the pages. And then, we can set the highly enjoyable (and questionable) content aside and walk out with sparkling toes, ready to re-enter real life.
After all, who are we to judge?
Right?
But are we able to set aside our judgments of ourselves and other women?
We live in a culture that judges constantly.
In fact, making good judgments is important to our survival.
But are we kind to ourselves?
Do we give ourselves the “benefit of the doubt?”
Or, do we compare ourselves physically, mentally, financially and emotionally to other women?
We are told that we need to “lean in” in the workplace. To put ourselves out there, share our ideas and be bold. But how easy is that when we are second guessing ourselves inside and out?
Maybe it is time to let go of our judgments and embrace our strengths?
There goes the Judge!
Coach Me Quick Tips for Embracing Wonderful You:
1. Start by noticing when you judge someone else.
Why is she wearing that outfit? She shouldn’t have said that? What kind of a mother is she?
Remember that when we judge others, that just comes right back at us eventually.
2. Make a list of what makes you happy about yourself.
Yes, a list! If you are honest, it will be lengthy.
3. Try not to engage in conversations about other people’s frailties.
Let go of the desire to participate in gossip.
4. Say something nice about yourself and others each and every day.
It feels great.
5. Know that you are terrific and getting better.
All is well.
Getting off the bench, in L.A.,
Jamee
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